“You
made all the delicate, inner parts of my body, and knit them together
in my mother’s womb. Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex! It
is amazing to think about. Your workmanship is marvelous--and how well
I know it. You were there while I was being formed in utter seclusion!
You saw me before I was born and scheduled each day of my life before I
began to breathe. Every day was recorded in Your book!
Psalm 139 13-16
When I counsel with people I find that a lot of insecurities and dependencies are often rooted in poor self-esteem.
I often give a “prescription” for folks to read this Psalm and these
scripture verses each and every day. I also suggest writing the
scripture and verses down and putting it on your mirrors, in your car.
Look at it constantly when you are working on poor self esteem.
Poor self esteem is usually a result of things said to us by
dysfunctional people when we were young and at a vulnerable place in
our lives. Childhood is a time when hurtful things said to us by those
in power over us take root.
People who constantly put other people down with words are hurting people. Hurting people hurt other people. Verbal abuse,
used to tear down another’s self esteem, is very toxic. If a person
slaps you, the pain soon goes away. If a person calls you a name and
slaps you it’s the words your remember not the pain of the slap.
People learn what they live. Very often verbal abusers have been verbally abused themselves.
So what can you do if you have self esteem issues
as a result of verbal abuse? The first thing I advise is to have as
little to do with the abuser as possible. However, there are times when
people are stuck in a relationship with an abuser that they aren’t able
to leave, for one reason or another.
If you are in a situation where you cannot leave, I suggest the
following. Let the verbal abuser know that you are on to them. Say
something like, “I am sorry that you are angry, but I no longer will be
used as your emotional scapegoat. “
Then smile, and walk away. Pray the following “My God has shut the mouth of the demon speaking through this person and it can no longer hurt me.”
Consider the source of the verbal abuse. It’s certainly not from God.
Psalm 139 V 13-16 tells us exactly how God see’s us. The words of any
accuser, of a Christian, come from someone who is not allowing God to
control their impulse to tear down another person. They need help. Pray
for them, and then don’t allow yourself to believe a lie from the pits
of hell.
Not all verbal abusers are non-Christians. Sometimes Christians can
verbally abuse others, because of the pain inside of them that they
haven’t dealt with. They too need to be called on the carpet for their
behavior and prayed for.
Tell yourself that you are God’s child. Beautifully and wonderfully
made. God doesn’t make junk. We are the clay and He is the potter. Each
of us was made to be used by Him, just as we are! We were made in His
image, and we are His creations.
We need to see ourselves as God sees us. As we do so ,we grow and much of the pain that drives our self-esteem should fall away.
Father, we thank you
today for making us in your image. We are fearfully and wonderfully
made. Thank you that each of us is beautiful in Your eyes. You have
said in your Word that we are “The apple of your eyes.” Help us to
ignore verbal abuse and bind the demon that tries to destroy us through
words. In Your Name we pray, the Name above all names. Amen and Amen
In His Love and Service,
Pastor Cathie Miller
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www.helpforgodshurtingpeople.com
I
have a goal for my ministry in the coming year to be able to meets the
physical needs of people. I don’t just want to say “I’ll pray for you.”
I want to say “How much is that utility bill?” I then want to be able
to pay the bill through the ministry. I want to be able to send coats,
through the ministry. In the past the ministry has been able to help a
few people in dire circumstance, who I had discernment really needed
help. We have paid utilities, helped someone get her oven fixed, sent
books, sent bibles, sent CD’s of encouragement to those who needed to
calm their minds, and much more. But, to be honest in the past year I
had to use my own funds. They are limited.
I made a promise to God that I would never take a dime of the ministry
money for myself. I haven’t. I am thankful for those who share my
vision and have donated in the past 2 weeks to the hurting.
If you can help, please give to this ministry. I want to put the love of God
into action. That is my goal. The website, the emails here, all cost
money. If you could spare even a dollar, they add up. I believe that
my vision of helping God’s hurting people, could spread across this
country. People could get the help they need from Christians, every
day, not just during Christmas.
God Bless you, as you prayerfully consider giving to God’s hurting people. In Love and Gratitude..